“Holiday season” can mean different things to different families. This year, overcome the rush of gift-buying and frantic entertaining, and try these simple tips to infuse meaning and add new traditions for a season of pure joy and wonder.
Make Two Gift Lists
Alongside the wish list of things, start a "gratitude gift list"
tradition. Each family member can decorate lovely pages in a
journal or individual sheets of paper to make a special list of all
the people and things you are each grateful for. Keep the
lists in a special box to look back on-or add to-each year.
Recognize the Differences
As excited as your child might be for Santa's visit, Santa might
not be stopping at his friend's home. In acknowledging this,
rather than focus on an absence of Christmas, re-frame the
conversation positively: Arjun will celebrate Diwali; Abdul will
celebrate Eid; Joshua will celebrate Hanukkah, and so on.
Most schools will include some treatment of other holidays, but
you can help that learning stick and remove the mystery by reading
stories about various celebrations, asking diverse friends if you
can join them for their festivities and inviting them to
yours. This can serve as a powerful beginning in a lifetime
of respectful learning and understanding.
Incorporate New Traditions
Whatever you celebrate, there may be significant cultural
variations-in decorations, foods, stories, entertaining, and gift
giving-that could add sparkle to your holiday, as well as greater
meaning and deeper connections with others around the world.
Perhaps you can learn to make a favorite dessert your
grandmother's grandmother made for her, sharing this heritage with
the rest of the family; honor the memory of a person or place that
impacted your past; encourage an interest your child has been
showing (e.g., one of my daughters loved stories set in Paris, and
another was fascinated by ancient Egypt, so we found recipes and
decorations from those cultures); or add touches with arts and
crafts inspired from places as varied as Guatemala, Germany or
Ghana.
Happy New Year
Celebrate the stroke of midnight on January 1 in Barcelona when
it's 6 pm US Eastern Standard Time (EST), in London or Lagos at 7
pm EST, or in Casablanca at 8 pm EST. Most little ones can't
stay up until midnight at home, but you can create an exciting
celebration going from city to city at their "midnight,"
simultaneously introducing new cultures, and a fun science, math
and geography lesson on time zones. Enjoy other New Year
celebrations throughout the year, like Lunar New Year, commonly
referred to as Chinese New Year, or the first day of spring, the
Persian New Year.
Make Giving Back as Natural as Getting
If children grow up in a sharing culture, then giving to others
over the holidays becomes a cherished tradition they will remember
throughout their lives. Don't expect youngsters to give up
presents, but add efforts like serving food or choosing gifts for a
local shelter, giving a tangible gift like a goat or hen, or
sponsoring a child's education in another country. When
looking for presents you can wrap up with a bow, shop together
through on-line catalogues with a charitable mission. It
feels good to do good.
Opening up our holidays with the gifts of the world can serve as
an enriching, yet simple and budget-friendly way to instill good
cheer, lasting memories and deeper ties within and across all kinds
of families, near and far.